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Relationships Need Miserable Moments

Updated: Feb 23, 2023

In light of Valentines day being here why not start off with a little coaching on relationships. Our close relationships are fundamentals or nitty gritty that make up the foundation of our lives. It is a pure and can be the dearest reflection of who we are. Those miserable moments that we sometimes avoid are the most important ingredients of growth and engagement potential. It can shape and mold us depending on how we approach the hindsight of it all. Relationships may not last forever but the lessons you learn from them are needed enrichment for all of our lives. Little do we know until we know.

Humanity has always been it's healthiest version when having a population free to have well nurtured healthy and fulfilling relationships. Of course the process of getting there takes time, commitment, ups, downs, and round and rounds. The miserable feelings that come with trying times are also where the most growth and engagement evolve from. Relationships may not last forever but the lessons you learn from them are needed enrichment for all of our lives. Our human psyche is predicated on eye contact, touch, communication. Test that once when your at a crossroad in a close relationship. No words just eye contact. No words just touch. Then see what words come to mind.

I am not a huge fan of Valentines day but I'll throw some red lipstick on and a smirky smile to talk about relationships any and every day!

The Importance of Close Relationships in Your Life

Close relationships are an essential aspect of a fulfilling life. They bring joy, love, support, and a sense of belonging to our lives. Whether it's a friendship, romantic relationship, or relationship with a family member, close relationships play a significant role in shaping who we are and how we feel about ourselves. In this blog, we will explore the importance of close relationships and how they contribute to our overall well-being.

Emotional Support

Close relationships provide emotional support during times of stress, sadness, or happiness. Having someone to confide in and share your thoughts and feelings with can have a profound impact on your emotional well-being. When we have close relationships, we have someone to turn to in times of need, which can reduce stress and anxiety, and promote a sense of security and comfort.

Sense of Belonging

Close relationships give us a sense of belonging and connectedness. When we have close relationships, we feel like we are part of a community of people who care about us and support us. This sense of belonging can help us to feel more secure, confident, and valued, which can have a positive impact on our mental and emotional health.

Personal Growth

Close relationships can also help us to grow and develop as individuals. They provide us with opportunities to learn about ourselves, understand our own motivations and emotions, and identify areas for personal growth. By sharing our thoughts, feelings, and experiences with those close to us, we can gain valuable insights and feedback that can help us to improve and grow.

Joy and Happiness

Close relationships bring joy and happiness into our lives. Whether it's through shared experiences, laughter, or just spending time with someone we care about, close relationships can bring a sense of happiness and fulfillment that is hard to find anywhere else.

Love and Affection

Finally, close relationships provide us with love and affection. When we have close relationships, we have someone to share our life with, and someone who cares about us and supports us. This love and affection can provide us with a sense of comfort, security, and happiness, and can have a positive impact on our overall well-being.

In conclusion, close relationships are an essential aspect of a fulfilling life. They provide us with emotional support, a sense of belonging, opportunities for personal growth, joy, happiness, and love. By cultivating close relationships, we can improve our overall well-being and live a happier, more meaningful life.

In our lives we all experience loneliness and rejection. Even though we may not realize it at the time, these events shape who we are and set the foundation for our relationships with others. Conversations investigating these dreaded emotions will help bring these experiences into perspective.

Being miserable in a relationship doesn't mean you have to lose hope or give up on the relationships. It is a moment even if measured by a few days time. Being unhappy doesn't make you a failure. It actually is more a mere reflection of our humanity. Hard times shape the most extraordinary influences and that includes hard times with close relations.

In conclusion...

Sometimes when we look back on our relationships, we don't realize how great it was. In a lot of rom-coms, people find the perfect love with the perfect song and the perfect feeling that for some of us results in a gross feeling of vulnerability. If you are not one of those repulsed by sappy love stories and you are looking to be swept off your feet with no unhappiness EVER kind of relationship let me introduce you to some reality. I am not a coach to deliver sugar coated gummies all the time! Romance is a quick shot and fun but isn't the balance within the philosophy. I wouldn't recommend keeping that as an aim without warning you of the disappointments and confusions ahead.

Your perfect mate is not out there waiting for you; the mate is out there that is far from perfect. They are a human plagued with flaws, just like you. Our flaws is what makes is the balance. Accepting these vulnerabilities in a relationship means realizing that the most important part of any romantic relationship is being authentic with each other. We should never settle for the "ball and chain" act. We need relationships with each person bringing their whole self to the equation. When we get in a relationship whether romantic or platonic we are a whole person. It is not 1/2 + 1/2 = 2... 1+1=2! You have to be a whole person which takes a deep authentic commitment to honesty and acceptance. You have to know and accept the good and darker parts of who you are. Everything great evolves from darkness.

We don't know until we get out there and get to knowing something knew.

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